Flabbergasted
When I was growing up, my family lived on a pretty tight budget. What extras we had was due almost entirely to my mom being a very good clearance shopper. We didn’t want for anything we needed, but we learned the value of a dollar quickly, and I’ve been working since I was 12 to pay for things like beyond-the-basics school clothes, shoes, music, other goodies, and my first car (along with it’s repairs and insurance). It’s not that my parents were cheap, it’s that they didn’t have the extra money to shower gifts and extras on me, and to be honest, I don’t think they would have if they did. It’s not how they were raised, and they just don’t abide by the culture of childhood excess that they see here in the States.
I say this to set you up for the flabbergasted part.
Friday evening, as I had a nice dinner with my parents before embarking on a music cruise out of Kingston down the Hudson River, I was shocked to the point of stammering. My father was, supposedly writing me a check for the balance of their tickets, handed me a check for six HUNDRED dollars.
“Dad! I don’t understand! What’s this for?” I could feel myself blushing furiously, which doesn’t happen often.
“It’s for your Pennsylvania trip.” This is what Dad calls SOAR, which we had chatted about on the phone that morning.
“But I don’t understand… you know that even though I didn’t get the scholarship I’ve still been saving and I’m ok now, I’ll be able to go, right?” I stared at the check like a simpleton.
“I know, and that’s why we want to give it to you. You’ve been saving and still staying on Steve’s budget. You’re doing the right thing and we’re proud of you. You’re still going to need spending money, and I know there was that thing (drumcarder and/or Woolee Winder) you were going to buy if you got the scholarship.”
“Holy shit! I can’t believe it! Thanks Dad, Mom! Wow.” Insert squee here, and bewildered restaurant patrons.
This is now the second time, including the wedding, that my parents have been able to do something like this. I don’t expect this kind of thing, it doesn’t even cross my mind! I don’t expect anything, I have no sense of entitlement because I wasn’t raised that way. So now that my dad is retired, with mom soon to follow, and they’re reaping the benefits of careful estate planning, I’m stunned at the largesse. It might not seem like a lot of money to some, but to me (in the context of my family) it’s a fortune, and a really big deal.
So, now I’m torn. I have an extra paycheck this month that I was going to finish my SOAR fund with. Now that I have the gift money, SOAR is paid for, spending money and gas included. I’ll use a portion of my extra paycheck to pay off some debt to the house account, but after that, what would you do? I’ve been thinking about a drum carder, and a Woolee Winder, for a long time. Should I get a drum carder when I can just dye roving? Admittedly the two preps are entirely different. And the Woolee Winder… truly, it is just a toy, though it’s nice being able to fit more fiber on a bobbin. I’d be fine getting either or both used, especially since that means they’re usually much cheaper than new. Why pay full price?
Lastly, I’ve been wanting to learn an instrument for years. Guitar didn’t work out for me due to the awkwardness of the positioning and how it aggravated my Fibromyalgia. I’ve always been fascinated with the harp, and due to the upright and balanced body positioning, it seems like it will be much more ergonomic for me than guitar. I can get a Sharpsicle, a well made entry level learning harp that plays in six different keys (due to levers) for around $600, modified for an amp hook-up. I found a vendor that sells music for this type of harp that’s from Old Europe, think stuff like Greensleeves. *drool*
What would you do? The options are killing me, good fortune like this doesn’t come around every day! Know of anyone that has a used drum carder for sale at a good price?


















